Monthly Archives: October 2010

the grace of divorce – why we go: change

The rotation of his old orb creates two relational influences, of which we can do nothing about. One is time and the other gravity, both of which can be caustic to a marriage. While they are as predictable as a … Continue reading

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the grace of divorce – why we go: extreme terms

Quick. Think of something you always do or did for your partner. What is it about relationships that drive us to hyperbole? The best sex ever. Always and forever. Lester Burnham’s Spectacular from American Beauty. There’s something about being whooped … Continue reading

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the grace of divorce – why we go: undefined expectations

It wasn’t until after my mother passed when I had a number of revelations about how she managed our home when I was still living in it. Not sure how much nostalgia changes memories, and death certainly can sanctify even … Continue reading

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the grace of divorce – why we go: unrealistic beliefs

As indicated in expectations, chances are the terminal blow to your marriage wasn’t infidelity or the loss of passion, instead it stemmed from something the two of you may have brought into the relationship long before that smoke-filled crowded room. … Continue reading

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the grace of divorce – why we stay: commitment

No other two tiny words in the tongue we speak bind more folks than these, I do. And while there are many variations on this declaration, the outcome is the same, at least on a legal level. You’re committed. Promise, … Continue reading

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the grace of divorce – why we stay: emotional attachment

The one in the relationship with the least amount of interest is the one with the most power. It’s a simple concept that wields a punch. Upon hearing and understanding its meaning all kinds of flashbacks zip through your mind. … Continue reading

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the grace of divorce – why we stay: inertia

Yes, the Newton idea; objects in motion and so on. Marriages are like that as well. In this case when it comes to why couples keep hanging out, for most it’s just because. There’s nothing acting against them, no friction, … Continue reading

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faith expressed in arrogance is bigotry

When god found Adam figged, so to speak, he asked Adam what was up with that and when it was discovered that Adam ate the fruit from the wrong tree Adam shifted his culpability and did what comes natural for many men, he blamed the woman. Continue reading

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the grace of divorce – why we stay: children

It’s a noble intention, a selfless commitment, the notion of sticking it out for the kids. The spike in empty-nester divorces hits sixteen percent higher than the mean divorce rate, an indication of parents holding on until the baby’s gone. … Continue reading

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catharsis

So much energy has been wasted in my life in the pursuit of worthiness. Instead, I wish I had directed it into the simple idea of just being a good, grateful man. Continue reading

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